— The Sensible, Affordable Alternative
“Mediation of our
divorce was a very positive experience.
imagine doing it any other way!”
— Rick L.,
married twenty one years
With Divorce Resolutions®, you and your
spouse or co-parent meet together in a safe and comfortable
environment, with Colorado attorney-mediator Lawrence King, who
serves as your neutral and impartial mediation professional. As your
mediator, Larry will guide and assist you in considering each
of the issues the legal system requires you to resolve — as part
of your Colorado divorce, child custody or parenting, or child support dispute.
What are the advantages of this process
of family and divorce mediation, over the traditional adversarial approach to
divorce, or of litigation of parenting and support disputes? Many!
This approach is entirely different.
Divorce Mediation’s Advantageous Style
Your discussions are private, the
atmosphere is comfortable and informal, and the process
is empowering and efficient.
In addition, consider the following other
advantages of family and divorce mediation:
Family and divorce mediation is extremely cost-effective.
Your separate meetings with separate attorneys, their
telephone calls with you and each other, settlement
conferences and preparations for court — all these adjuncts
to the litigated approach to divorce necessitate a great deal
of two professionals’ time and expense.
And, the legendary costs of divorce
trials, even so-called “temporary orders” hearings, can
quickly deplete any assets you have accumulated during your
marriage. In contrast, mediation, relying as it does on direct
communication and the mediator’s
skill in keeping the dialog constructive and focused,
accelerates the conclusion of divorce or parenting disputes.
Almost always, this affords very substantial cost savings,
making divorce mediation a truly affordable alternative.
Divorce Mediation Preserves Control
Family and divorce mediation preserves control over
your individual and family’s futures. Together, you and your
spouse or co-parent, will make the choices for the future:
All these matters are determined by you,
directly, and without control by lawyers or Orders of judges.
Divorce Mediation Allows for More Satisfying Solutions
Cooperative face-to-face problem-solving
often allows for more detailed planning and more creative
and satisfactory outcomes. Larry, for
example, works not only with readily available software that
helps you determine child support consistent with Colorado
law, but also with much more powerful computer tools to help
you consider, with your accountant or tax advisor, the impact
of taxes on your after-divorce situations.
In the collaborative work of family mediation,
it is much easier to discuss your separate visions of your
after-divorce needs and circumstances, and then structure
agreements to achieve significant tax savings for both
parties. Often, this sort of cooperative planning will pay for
the entire costs of your mediated divorce!
Divorce Mediation Promotes Child-Focused
The style and approach of
family and divorce mediation helps
to focus on your children’s needs and to improving
your parenting relationship over time. Unlike many other
disputes, couples (especially those with younger children) are
required to co-parent for many years. As such, they often have
a compelling interest in managing their relationship with each
other — with dignity and respect. Family mediation promotes this
objective, with the obvious benefit to your children and to
your own sense of personal peace.
Recent research findings confirm the
persistent benefits of even a modest commitment to divorce
mediation rather than litigation, in resolving divorce
or child custody disputes. If you have children, we urge
you to consider this research (by following the above link)!
Divorce Mediation Is Confidential
All of your settlement
discussions in family and divorce mediation are protected by Colorado law as
absolutely confidential. It is “safe” to consider
options and alternatives in mediation without fear that your
statements or questions or concerns might be used against you
in court or elsewhere. Your family’s circumstances remain
undisclosed as well, rather than discussed in court papers or
in open court.
See our articles on
confidentiality in Colorado divorce mediation,
Colorado mediators' ethics codes and
Colorado mediation model standards.
of Choosing Divorce Mediation
You might ask, however: How does it
work in practice, in the real world? Listen to one of our clients
describe how mediation was a positive choice for his
and its divorce:
My wife and I found the mediation process a very powerful tool to reaching
a resolution. Issues that could easily have escalated using separate lawyers were diffused. Our dignity and self-worth were not compromised. We
left our mediators' offices knowing that our children were well taken care of.
was also quick as well. Two sessions were sufficient to reach agreement on complex financial and parenting issues.
Mediation far surpasses litigation. Seek mediation first. Forget that first inclination to seek the advice of a litigator. A divorce need not be an adversarial, “win-at-all-costs” event!
from James K., married 23 years
Chris of Divorce Resolutions®
For many more testimonials of divorce
mediation's power and advantages, see our website's
If this sensible, affordable process of
family and divorce mediation makes great sense to you
and your spouse, or co-parent, consider next: Why you
should choose us to assist you in the following
section of our website,
Divorce Resolutions®, Colorado Center for Divorce Mediation.