Clients With Paternity-Related Issues: Minor Children, Never Married to Each Other
Dear New Clients:
We assure you we will bring our highest efforts to assist you to resolve in an efficient, respectful and affordable way, all issues posed by your separation or paternity-related matter. In addition to financial matters, your work, of course, includes the additional and important task of creating a parenting plan for your child(ren).
In lieu of forwarding a packet of materials by mail, we have discussed your each accessing this information directly and immediately from our website. Of course, you can return at any time to access these links and resources.
Tools To Prepare
Ordinarily, we suggest you download and review two Adobe-formatted documents:
These require you to have Adobe’s widely used and free software, Adobe Acrobat Reader. If your computer does not yet have this software, or you are new to using it to access these tools, click on these instructions to download and learn how to use them.
These are simply tools, and you should not feel like you must have discussed or resolved any of these issues before we meet. Most couples need some help in understanding the range of choices they have and that is part of our job as a mediator. Nonetheless, we provide these to you to give you some direction of what information may be useful in streamlining your work together.
Alternatively, if you feel you have resolved many or most of your parenting and financial issues and have researched and have helpful documents available and organized, these may not be of interest to you.
Terrific Optional Parenting Exercise
If possible and you have the time and continued access to a computer, we generally recommend for your child(ren)’s benefit that you each complete the questionnaire and exercises at www.ProudToParent.org.
Specifically designed for parents never married to each other, these positive tools are described and explained in more detail on our Family Online Resources page.
It helps to agree on who will begin this questionnaire and that person will provide the other’s email address, so you can be part of a single “linked” family. Many of our clients have found these exercises very powerful and helpful, but certainly, they are optional.
Help With Getting Here
Be sure to consult and perhaps print our driving directions, and a map provided by MapQuest to assist you in traveling to our office. Although the MapQuest map is generally helpful, we strongly recommend you use our driving directions in lieu of theirs (there appear to be errors in directions they provide from some originations).
Our Fees And Payment Policy
This will confirm that, absent other agreement, you will each be responsible for paying at the end of the session, one-half of our hourly fees, and that we ordinarily anticipate a two-hour first session. We do accept MasterCard and Visa, if that is helpful.
As is the policy of all mediators, we cannot assist you in an agreement on how you will share fees, and you must have this issue decided in advance of beginning your work with us.
Third Parties, Other Family And Children
On occasion, of course, the presence of third persons (including other family members) is helpful and appropriate in mediation. In many cases, however, the presence of others hinders the mediation process. Unless arrangements have been considered and agreed to in advance by both parties and the mediator, third persons and children should not accompany you to your mediation session.
We genuinely look forward to assisting you. Please call or write if you have any questions or concerns.
We’d appreciate a confirmation that you have received our email confirming your appointment and have accessed this page of resource materials.