Navigating Through Divorce Mediation In Colorado
In this “Spotlight” feature, we provide a comprehensive overview of divorce mediation in Colorado. This guide will continue to be updated over time as divorce laws in the state evolve. Please be sure to check back periodically.
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Dos & Don’ts Before Filing For Divorce
The decision to file for divorce is one of the most important – and most difficult – choices that a person may face during their lifetime. Because divorce can have such significant and far-reaching effects on your life, it is critical to make the proper actions.
Before notifying your partner of your intentions, we recommend all individuals reflect on the following dos and don’ts of divorce:
What To Do Before Filing
- Ensure divorce is what you really want: Once you file for divorce, it is very difficult to put that genie back in its bottle should you have second thoughts. While divorce is an inherently emotional decision, try to reflect on your feelings when you are in a calm state. It’s also beneficial to exhaust all possible avenues of resolution, such as marriage counseling, before moving forward with divorce.
- Review your financial circumstances: Money is one of the two biggest drivers of disagreement during divorce proceedings. Take stock of what assets you own separately and what may be divided between you and your partner. It is also good to consider possible alimony and child support that you may receive or must pay.
- Think about what’s best for your kids: The other major driver of divorce disputes are your children. As hard as divorce may be on you, it is even harder on your kids. Take a step back and try to consider what is going to be the most positive resolution for your children when the divorce is finalized.
What Not To Do Before Filing For Divorce
- Don’t let your emotions dictate your decisions: We touched on this previously, but it is worth repeating. Don’t let a momentary wave of anger, frustration or sadness be the driving factor that determines whether to proceed with divorce.
- Don’t try to hide property: It can be tempting to hide some prized possessions from your partner. Doing so, however, could cause a significant amount of harm. If you are found to have hidden assets from your spouse, you could face financial penalties.
- Don’t assume you have to fight: Depending on your circumstances, mediation may be an effective avenue for your divorce. Mediation can save time, money and reduce the stress that you and your partner will face as you navigate through your divorce.